Latest posts by Nayab Imtiaz (see all)
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Every day since age 14, I would wake up and hear the same words over and over again, “You need to lose weight.” “You’re too fat.” “No one would marry you.”
Every day, I would wake up to have my self-confidence shattered, like battling severe depression wasn’t enough already. Like waking up every morning fighting suicidal thoughts and struggling to be alive wasn’t enough. It is very easy to call someone names when you don’t know their story. You know what? You have no right to demean someone and pretend to ‘’care” because I’m sorry but my weight or the way I look is none on your business.
My dreams are ever bigger than my size, does that bother you too? Oh maybe yes, they do bother you because the only thing you know it to demean others.
I know it better what’s good for me, so don’t fake your concern but you know my name and not my story. And no, I don’t care.
As for marriage, I am not a sex object. I don’t want someone to marry me because of my looks. I want someone to fall in love with my intellect and my ambitiousness. I’m a proud to be the woman I’ve become and I’m not changing simply because, “no one would marry you,” if being slim is everything for you and your son, I am sorry but I have nothing but pity for you.
I’m comfortable in my own skin, and that’s all what matters to me. Your opinions of me and how I ‘’should’’ be doesn’t matter to me because they only reflect your own pathetic mentality.
Dream on, people. Live your life to the fullest. Why does it matter who says what? People don’t let live anyway, why make your own life miserable? I learnt it the hard way and since then, “live and let live” became my motto in life.