It was a lifetime experience for me to go shopping with a transgender. Sometimes, we learn things from people we least expect. I was choosing glasses in liberty market when I heard someone saying: “Baji ye pyaari lag rahi hai.”
(Sister, this one suits you)
I turned around and found a transgender smiling at me. I smiled back and asked “Really”? He nodded in yes. And that was a beautiful piece indeed. I brought the glasses and a desire to spend some time with him emerged in my heart. I asked him if he would like to go for shopping with me.
We visited different shops within the particular market and I was surprised by his sense of humor plus his choice was not bad. In one shop, when he tried to bargain, the shopkeeper in a harsh tone reprimanded him “Tu chup kar tujy kia pta in cheezon ka ja apna nach gana kar” (You shut up, you don’t know these things, Go mind your business).
I didn’t say anything and kept looking for things I needed. After sometime, I asked for discount and he in a very sweet and polite tone of voice explained their stratagem as “Ma’am I’m really sorry but we don’t offer discounts on new arrivals.”
Then I asked him what if you could’ve talked to him in the same manner. After all, they are just humans as we are. I told him that they didn’t wish to be born this way. He got embarrassed, lowered his gaze, and said sorry to him.
I can’t express the delight I saw in transgender’s eyes. I still remember his sore words “Hum bhi bs yahi chahty hain, Qaboliyat or Izzat.”
(We also want only this thing, Acceptance and Respect).
We exchanged smiles and said goodbye with a hope of seeing each other again.
Taboos have blindfolded Humanism. Through this story, I want to draw attention of readers towards this tragic and painful behavior we conduct to this respectable community. This is pathetic to see that people adopt dogs, raise them, provide them with everything they need, give them unconditional love, feel sheer pleasure in sleeping, talking and eating with them despite of the fact that after all they are just animals. But neglecting humanity they abandon these people who are human beings just like us.
The relationship we share with our parents is the only thing that saves us from this brutal inhuman world. Parents can accept their child even with spoiled characteristics whether he/she is a murderer, rapist or is involved in anything unacceptable to society because they have very soft corner when it comes to the one they give birth then why do they become hard core to accept and raise a transgender one. You feel worse than a useless waste product. Why is there so much hatred? What is their fault? We badly need to ask these questions to ourselves.
Parents can accept their child even with spoiled characteristics whether he/she is a murderer, rapist or is involved in anything unacceptable to society because they have very soft corner when it comes to the one they give birth then why do they become hard core to accept and raise a transgender one. You feel worse than a useless waste product. Why is there so much hatred? What is their fault? We badly need to ask these questions to ourselves.
They deserve to be accepted in the society, to breathe and live freely. They should be given opportunities to express their talent, should not be thrown out in the hands of people who use them to run their business. They are not products you sell to earn money. They are living human beings. Treat them like that, respect them. One day, we are going to answer our creator for this.
This is we, you and I who can make a change, who can teach people true meanings of humanity, who can spread love and harmony. And we ought to do it now. Speak up for the rights and equality. Break stereotypes. Use the power of knowledge to liberate ideas.